Validating and Affirming my Boundaries - EXAMPLE

If I am to be honest about boundaries,  I need to recall why my integrity is at a higher level.  Going THROUGH this. And not for a moment believing I am worth so much more than what I allowed.

 

Some men spread derogatory messages, false rumours and confidential material to embarrass, humiliate and defame their partner. He may use his MySpace, Facebook status, and other Social Media to write degrading statements about her. These tactics are intended to damage her self image.

#FAIL

  

I Wish That I Could Say

That these are the things I thought love was. 

 

Wish I could say that none of these things were part of my experience in my past relationship. But I compromised, I overcame. Forgetting the retaliation that occurred last week, and drug into this week. And not comprehending what even sparked it.  Still no apology for the feeble drama created. 

 

So it must make everything o.k.., and easy to forgive and forget,  right? Yes. Always. I can easily be at peace. It's a choice. 

 

I also choose to step away from friendship. I respect myself to know that not a hint of remorse or apology was given for the immature shenanigans on Facebook.

If you think that was all sarcasm, fun, not to be taken personally, WHO ARE YOU? Who repeatedly throws tantrums like a child and thinks it is o.k? Well, if we still have friends from Jr. High who also participate with you in bullying people, then you've found the group that is at the same vibration as you. I have nothing in common with that environment or you anymore.

 

How many times does the power of control have to be denied before it can be admitted to??? I don't need to have that answer. 

The day I walk away is the day i make a point. Today. 

 

Yes, I am have morals and a higher standards, and will be the only person whom I seek for that guidance going forward. 

 

You stated you can be my friend. I would want  to be my friend, too!  All of the un-mindful things you've created to damage who I am, only to subject myself to those experiences over and over, I just am saying NO THANK YOU to your version of friendship. 

#truth

"CRAZY MAKING" Tactic - DEAD.

Crazy makers point to an event in your personal history and tell you, repeatedly, that it has something to do with your current relationship problems with them. Crazy makers blame you for every bad thing in your relationship or their life. They rarely if ever take responsibility for their hurtful actions and words, and if they do take responsibility for something it’s because they’re trying to convince you that they love you. Stop believing they can love you if they cannot love themselves. For someone who can treat you as they have does not have the ability to commit to love another in partnership. Crazy makers use your intimate confessions against you, personally and publically...and in social media posts. Thus an attempt in turning you inward on yourself and making you your own worst enemy.  Allowing this for too long, crafts self - doubt. Self-doubt robs you of confidence. ISN'T THAT WHAT THEY WANT?? Sure. But that power is no longer available for anyone to relinquish and control. I HAVE CHANGED. That is all that matters.