Your true partner has already been decided; it is set above. It is already a commitment, without even knowing, it is an event set to happen by you. The cosmos knows. Your soul knows. Your gut instinct knows. You have been partners many lifetimes before. There is nothing ‘ new’, it feels like you have been married a hundred times before. The other person knows what to say or not say, to evolve the process.
You will always come back to each other, or stick together in some way because of the enormous magnetic pull to each other. As they say in the movie Avatar:
‘ I see you’. Those words are more than ‘I love you’.
The words have many more dimensions behind it. ‘I see your soul.’ I love your soul, with all aspects that goes with it. Everything. The whole package. – This is the ‘I see you’. Many people do not find it appealing anymore, to marry the traditional ways. We say vows we do not feel in the heart, sign a ‘contract’ for an institute and spend a lot of money on a sacred ceremony that transcends the need for material.
Relationships of the Past
There is a time and place for everything. You cannot change someone’s feelings, and you cannot ‘ make it work’, when it has already been broken and the other person is not fighting for love. It takes two to Tango, It is a lover’s dance…
What you have found from your past marriages/relationships is that what you are attracted to in a person isn't what you ultimately live with. After the honeymoon is over — after the desire systems that were dormant in the relationship that have the attraction in it pass and all of it passes — then you are left with the work to do.
And its the same work. When you trade in one partner for another, you still have the same work. You're going to have to do it sooner or later when the pizzazz is over. And it just keeps going over and over. And you can't milk the romanticism of relationship too long as you become more conscious. (TRUTH) It's more interesting than that. It really is.
And people keep wanting to romanticize their lives all the time. part of the culture. But the awakening process starts to show you the emptiness of that forum. And you start to go for something deeper. You start to go to meet another human being in truth. And truth is scary. Truth has bad breath at times; truth is boring; truth burns the food; truth is all the stuff. Truth has anger; truth has all of it.And you stay in it and you keep working with it and your keep opening to it and you keep deepening it. Every time you trade in a partner, you realize that there's no good or bad about it.
I'm not talking good or bad about this. But you begin to see how you keep coming to the same place in relationships, and then you tend to stop. Because it gets too heavy.
Because your identity gets threatened too much. For the relationship to move to the next level of truth requires an opening and a vulnerability that your not quite ready to make And so you entrench, you retrench, you pull back and then you start to judge and push away and then you move to the next one.
And then you have the rush of the openness and then the same thing starts to happen. And so you keep saying..Where am I going to find the one when this doesn't happen?
And it will only happen when it doesn't happen IN YOU. IT NO LONGER DOES. When you start to take in and watch the progress happening, and get quiet enough inside yourself, so you can take that process as it's happening and start to work with it. ...and keep coming back to living truth in yourself or the other person even though its scary and hard to see them eye to eye at the point of your transformation.
What you have found from your past marriages/relationships is that what you are attracted to in a person isn't what you ultimately live with. After the honeymoon is over — after the desire systems that were dormant in the relationship that have the attraction in it pass and all of it passes — then you are left with the work to do.
And its the same work. When you trade in one partner for another, you still have the same work. You're going to have to do it sooner or later when the pizzazz is over. And it just keeps going over and over. And you can't milk the romanticism of relationship too long as you become more conscious. (TRUTH) It's more interesting than that. It really is.
And people keep wanting to romanticize their lives all the time. part of the culture. But the awakening process starts to show you the emptiness of that forum. And you start to go for something deeper. You start to go to meet another human being in truth. And truth is scary. Truth has bad breath at times; truth is boring; truth burns the food; truth is all the stuff. Truth has anger; truth has all of it.And you stay in it and you keep working with it and your keep opening to it and you keep deepening it. Every time you trade in a partner, you realize that there's no good or bad about it.
I'm not talking good or bad about this. But you begin to see how you keep coming to the same place in relationships, and then you tend to stop. Because it gets too heavy.
Because your identity gets threatened too much. For the relationship to move to the next level of truth requires an opening and a vulnerability that your not quite ready to make And so you entrench, you retrench, you pull back and then you start to judge and push away and then you move to the next one.
And then you have the rush of the openness and then the same thing starts to happen. And so you keep saying..Where am I going to find the one when this doesn't happen?
And it will only happen when it doesn't happen IN YOU. IT NO LONGER DOES. When you start to take in and watch the progress happening, and get quiet enough inside yourself, so you can take that process as it's happening and start to work with it. ...and keep coming back to living truth in yourself or the other person even though its scary and hard to see them eye to eye at the point of your transformation.
#TRUTH:
Someone who does not want to be in their power (commitment to themselves) will
never be able to commit to you.
On the road of your past relationships and affairs, you learned who you are, what you need to shine, bloom, blossom and stay strong in a world, that has so many challenges.
On the road of your past relationships and affairs, you learned who you are, what you need to shine, bloom, blossom and stay strong in a world, that has so many challenges.
You learned about your personality and your ego-aspects. You learned how to be a strong person, and how to make a future partner a powerful and strong person by the vibration you are able to send in a connection based on Truth. That is how you love in a way that makes the other person stronger, not weaker.Your reflection – Meeting yourself.
When you find someone, who is true to their own soul, who has taken all the time, to find out their own pains, heals them self, and created the strength to get out of it… They are able to commit to you.
They need to be true to their ESSENCE. And that takes wisdom, soul searching, falling down and standing up. When you are committed to yourself, because you have seen both the darkest and the lightest places, you are able to ‘ see’ your reflection in someone else.
When you feel a partner is living from the heart, and loves themselves, you will not have a fear-based relationship. For instance, your partner can be in a room with twenty beautiful other people or they can travel the world without you. You can let him have thousands of friends and you just have ‘ peace and trust’, because you know the commitment is from the heart.
It is a divine connection. You both have rest/stillness and calm, NOT a fear-based relation. You can have your own travel, your own path, and yet…. You know the path of your loved one, is right next to yours. You can sit back, and breathe. When you have peace and rest with a partner, it is, because you feel you can trust this person. And you know you can trust yourself.
ISN'T THAT BEAUTIFUL???
Marriage without a True Heart Connection
So many traditional marriages ‘ break’ because it is not a relationship based on a heart connection. It is not based on a true soul-travel. It is based on outside factors like social standards. Things like money, safety, and a longing for someone to make you feel whole are some are the main reasons we rush to get married. I've done it. And it was all wrong. In all the ways I describe here.
Marriage - - It’s an act of proving that you love someone, that you’re really committed, when isn’t just loving them enough? Why do we need to prove that our love is real? It should be obvious to all who look.
Most people struggle with the idea of self-love and how it is to feel safety INside themselves. When you are able to give yourself attention, feed yourself with soul-food, love, and fulfillment: You do not need to find love externally. It is always existing inside you already.
Darkness dissolves in The Light of Love
The energy of the heart is so strong, much more powerful than the power of the mind. We don’t give it the credit it truly deserves. In a cosmic marriage, all the ‘ unseen’ and dark places hidden deep in the heart will appear in the light of love. Darkness will always peak in the heights of ‘ being in love’. Love is the highest vibration. Darkness is a much lower vibration.
If someone loves you truly, all the unseen aspect will come up for they are showing you what you can change. Just breath, walk, sing, dance, cry, and let it be ‘ there’. Do not judge your fears and insecurities.
When we can genuinely say ‘ Thank you’, and ‘I see you’, we create real transformation within us. Do not think your lover is the cause of this pain. See it differently. Your lover is only picking up the mirror, and wants to heal you by showing you all the aspects of yourself. Sometimes we don’t want to look, but that is the only way to grow.
I write this only by knowing through experiences of my own to which the end result is loving thyself, forgiveness and seeing the other person on their journey only with LOVE and COMPASSION.
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