Why Life is Worth Living...

My first, my oldest... she's a challenge and a gift all rolled into perfection. I love her so much it hurts. My Chick. Loving me in all my flaws.

Destination: Healer.

What will happen to the healers once everyone is healed?

 

In a time of great planetary transformation, great upheaval, great healing and ‘up-leveling’ we see more healers rising from their own ancestral memories, own archaic soul memories as healers. I am seeing more and more healing modalities pouring through humanity all the time. We are being given modalities for healing our DNA for integrating our higher expressions of self into the earth body, for healing past emotional trauma, healing and releasing past life trauma and karma, we are undergoing spiritual surgery, template level re-organization, we are witnessing the up-rising of the feminine, the healing of the collective feminine, and the shifting of culture.

 

If you are alive today, take heart. You are a warrior of the soul. You incarnated into this physical vehicle you call a body because you knew the beautiful thrill of this 4th dimensional existence and your soul knew and wanted a front seat for the amazing healing and transformation we are now beholding.

 

In the past, the village had one healer, or a few. And they would never call themselves the healer, they would never call themselves the shaman- only would they be called such a name by their community. But the time has call to call yourself. The time has come to claim your true identity, to name yourself. Yes, I am the healer. Yes, I am the shaman of my soul, ushering myself between dimensions, reclaiming the lost fragments of who I really am, altering my own state like a finely crafted dial on a beautiful physical mechanism holding my most precious of spirit. Take heart warrior spirit, you are the healer. You are every bit the healer.

 

You are now healing with sound, you are healing with food, you are speaking to the water, you are speaking to the earth, you are communicating with the elements, you are recognising your soul family who may not inhabit physical human forms, you are at one with the animals, you peer into your own eyes in the bathroom mirror and see the cosmos within yourself. Yes, you are the healer. And it is time. The time has come for you to step forth as the great healer of your own life, if you have not already, and to recognize yourself as such. To certify YOURSELF, which is a privilege no one else can have- only you can certify yourself and grant yourself the power of healing, for self and for others.

 

As we see humanity moving towards a collective population of healers, a culture of healers, a world of healers, the question arises, what is the fate for us? Will we be healers forever? Will our job one day end?

 

For light-workers and healers of all types, we are the spiritual equivalent of the volunteers who go and rescue the oil laden ducks after a poisonous devastating oil spill. We are on the front lines, we are in the thick of it. We are clearing out the darkest of distortions, the heaviest of self-loathing, the depths of despair and guilt, the greatest extent of having forgotten who we really are. As healers, by identifying ourselves as healers, as light-workers, we therefore tune ourselves into this reality, willingly, intentionally, volunteering to become a master artist, a master practitioner in the very medium itself of light. We chose this task, this creation, this story, this adventure, this remembering. We, through our love, through our hands, through our touch, through our modalities, through our intentions, our art, our life, we are literally conducting light through our own vessels into this plane to illuminate every point on this infinite grid of consciousness.

 

I have seen that the future of healing is also the past. You see, there was a time far in the past, but if you can allow yourself to understand, this construct of ‘past’ is also the future. Time is not linear, it is cyclical, and we are rounding a new resonance in this spiral. Yes, we are returning to our rightful place in existence- the place of our ancestors and the place of our descendants. One day the tide of pure light will, in a sense, completely tip and when it does, the distortion, the forgetfulness, the shame, the hindrance of the spirit, will be gone; And then what of the healers?

Once we have tuned fully into this, what will the healers then do? We will do what we have always done. We must understand that healing is not the fixing of something broken, it is the integration of the parts back into the whole. And this is the paradox, stop waiting. There is no waiting. There is no peak. Everything in creation is always expanding, infinitely expanding. There is only ever more healing to be had. And once the light is allowed to pour through un-restricted, we can be freed of our work with the sad energy of distortion.

 

How do we know this? We need look no further than the myriad of other races and civilizations throughout the universe to catch a glimpse of the imminent reality of more natural, expansive, and higher-vibrational ways of existing. Do you not think that the Sirians, the Arcturians, the Angelic realm, the Pleiadians, and so on, do you not think they themselves are also healers? Of course they are.

 

In the constant unfoldment and expansion of the universe, there is ALWAYS more. I repeat: there is ALWAYS MORE. There is always more expansion; there is always more healing in the sense that there is always more to discover and to integrate with the understanding that all the exotic far reaches of existence are still always parts of the self. “Healing does not happen by the denial of things but with the integration of things.”

 

The future of healing is pure creativity. The future of healing is play. The future of healing is exploration. The future of healing is the natural state of being in control of one’s reality and putting things out of balance just to put them back, just because you can. This is what humanity has long identified as ‘God’ or ‘Gods’, but it is your true nature as a facet of God.

Rest assured, in the future, which is the past, we as past Venusians, past Atlantians, past Mayans, past this that or whatever, we as HUMANS as spirits in whatever form will only ever find our role as healers ever more exciting, ever more artistic, ever more expansive and creative and necessary.

Rest assured warrior spirits, rest assured heart warriors, your time is never ‘coming’ your time is always now. You may give yourself permission to choose yourself. Every part of your being is necessary and profoundly perfect and we thank you for your light.

#truth

I've Accepted the Challenge!

Numerology. .Birth Day Number 15

Your Birth Day number is 15

You are highly creative and artistic. You also have a gift for languages. No matter what you do as a profession, your love tends to be the arts, especially the visual arts, such as painting, calligraphy, or sculpture.

There is a yearning within you to ground within the family or community structure, but there is a hint of wanderlust, too, which makes grounding difficult. You want the best in your life, and you strive for it.

Commitment to relationships - especially home and marriage - is a central issue in your life. You must be willing to bring out the best in your partner, or the place you live. In the same way, you must truly commit to your own abilities - make the most of them! Honor your talent and cultivate it with hard work and refinement.

You are very sensitive. Criticism has a very negative effect on you.

For this reason, you tend to support others to the point of denying yourself.

You want to live according to the Golden Rule, which is that you treat others as you would want to be treated.

You are generous and understanding. As a parent, you are devoted to your children and can maintain stability and love within the family.

You tend to be demonstrative in your affections. You are responsible but keep your own counsel and make your own decisions.

You probably look young for your age. 

In addition to your artistic talent, you possess sound business and financial instincts.

You tend to be thorough and conscientious in your approach to business, traits that pay off in the long run.

You must beware of becoming too soft in relationships. People can see you as an easy mark, or abuse your well-worn shoulder, upon which many tears have been shed. Be more than a willing ear.

You have considerable talent as a healer, but need to develop the actual tools of the healing vocation in order to truly help others.

You are multi-talented and with focus and determination, you have great potential for success.

See Me For Who I Am IN THIS MOMENT. Can You???

I have been broken.

For 15 years, I slowly took on some characteristics and traits as a result, such as losing touch with my emotions, becoming anti-social, living in fear, living in survival mode, outbursts of anger, hating myself, and forgetting who I really am - losing touch with my true self. 

What I have allowed to affect me has changed me. Some for the better,  moreso for the worst. The time I've lost is immeasurable, and those who cared no longer do. Head nothing to do with me though. 

I spend each and every day in judgement by those people who want to keep me trapped in a past that has withered my soul.  

I JUST WANT TO MOVE ON. WORDS AND JUDGEMENT HURT. CHISEL ANOTHER CHUNK OF EVERY OUNCE OF WILL I HAVE TO KEEP MOVING FORWARD. 

NO ONE CAN JUDGEMENT ME BUT ME. SO LEAVE YOUR OPINION TO YOURSELF. 

Do you REALLY know what LOVE means? 

I mean,  truly? I do. I have finally understood it's true meaning at age 44. No thing nor no one should be sought out to provide your sole happiness, and for showing you what love is.

Happiness should be everywhere.  In you,  resonate from you. Same with love.

Loving self first,  and resonating to everyone and everything.  Not selective. It shouldn't be given then taken away. That's the ego. It knows not a damn thing. 

Love is everything and all things. Sometimes being human, we see egos that blind it.

Being human, others egos will hurt and break us down, if that's all you can see and feel.

Making assumptions and bringing up what people did wrong in their reality in the past, with constant reminders of "hope you don't do that again"  know what it did -  no good before, hope you  can stay whole, learned your lesson? Hope you get it together" .... how is that helping in a positive manner???? Your ego stepping in instead of your true self to acknowledge everyone had their own journey and what will WILL when is time

Loving and supporting...but cold.

I love you, but.....

That's not love. 

MAYBE FOR ONCE, STEP OUT IF EGO...STOP BRINGING UP WHAT I AM NOT TO DO, ALL THE THINGS I DID WRONG, AND SHOULDNT REPEAT. PERHAPS IF IT WASN'T A CONSTANT REMINDER, IT COULD BE LEFT IN THE PAST. YOU REMINDERS OF THOSE MISTAKES KEEPS THEM ALIVE IN THIS REALITY. 

THEY DIE TODAY...

Sometimes seems as though I've become a target for the hurt that's in their hearts - that really has nothing to do with me, but perhaps they see in me those flaws within themselves perhaps they've not come to terms with. 

All the ego  projections on me from those who say they love me has been too constant and so intense, that physically HAS broke me down... rendering me weak. Taking my energy, my  emotional state sensitive, sad and tired...I'm constantly defending myself and becoming exhausted from each and every scenario that I absorb in my mind and end up  at the end of every single day in tears.

It leaves me moving slow.  Breaks down my worth. My goal just knocked to the ground, that needs picked up again tomorrow and re-started....

 Makes all steps upward towards effort to BECOME WHO I REALLY AM, AWAY FROM MY ILLUSION PAST removed from under me,  as if I haven't done ANYTHING TOWARDS THAT GOAL.

I want others judgements,  perceptions, opinions and feelings of who they *think* I am based on what I've done/not done in the past via actions or words

DO NOT MATTER ANYMORE.

If I could ask those close to me that feel I have hurt or disappointed them in any way:

CAN YOU look at me today as if you know none of yesterday???

CAN YOU??????????????????????

I can see you.  Today.  In the present moment. All of you. In judgement, dissapointment, hatred, anger, hurt, fear. And your beautiful.

Nothing else should matter, BUT THIS VERY MOMENT. VERY SECOND. 

With this post, I manifest all that is positive, allowing nothing to affect my inner being today. All the challenges and obstacles to be faced with strength not fear. 

I choose Love.Joy.Happiness. WILL YOU, TOO?

Mantra for Moving Forward - DO EVERYTHING IN LOVE.

Everything In Time

Sometimes time is needed to bring clarity.

How CAN You Be Present?

When the people around you remind you  daily and keep in judgement of all you didn't do,
did do,
should have done,
could have done

Respect For Self

Long gone, since stupid me sought love outside myself which already existed. Unconditional love that never leaves from your children. How could I be so blind to know what I have and thinking I needed anything more than this??????

Now it's so far out of reach and I just want to die.

Emotional and Verbal Attack Damage to the Brain

It wasn’t that long ago that most neuroscientists thought we were born with most all of the neurons we’d ever have. While we might gain a few more during childhood, they believed that after that, all we could look forward to was the death of brain cells. Now we know differently. We are aware of neurogenesis, a process whereby new neurons are birthed in a part of the brain known as the hippocampus.

The hippocampus is part of the limbic system--also known as the "emotional brain." Why? Well, because it controls most of the involuntary aspects of emotional behavior that are related to survival. These include feelings that fall into the painful category such as fear and anger, as well as more pleasurable such as affection. Furthermore, the hippocampus is involved in the processes of learning and memory.

The fact that is such a thing as neurogenesis is the good news. But there is also some bad news to share if you are living in a toxic environment filled with your partner’s narcissism, addictions, and abuse.

I probably don’t have to tell you that when you’re living with a narcissistic man who engages in verbal abuse and emotional abuse regularly, that your life is stressful. You might also find yourself ridden with anxiety and feeling depressed as you strive to deal with all you face. We now know, through magnetic resonance imaging, that stress-related disorders such as recurrent depressive illness, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, and Cushing's disease are all associated with atrophy of the hippocampus. Furthermore, stress appears to decrease capacity for production of new neurons, too.

The hippocampus is involved with memory. While it participates in verbal memory, it plays a particularly important in the memory of "context," or the time and place of events that have a strong emotional bias. Memories associated with strong emotions--such as fear—are marked in such a way that the memory retains its vividness in a very persistent way. This is what happens in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

We typically associate PTSD with soldiers who have been in a combat zone. But women who’ve been in abusive relationships can suffer from PTSD as well. Like those former soldiers, they will often end up having brains that are hyper-vigilant, In other words, the brain is always scanning the environment for patterns similar to those in the memories associated with those strong emotions. This is the way this part of the brain is striving to ensure the individual’s survival. But it becomes overreact or responds to things that are not dangerous. The situation does not truly call for a fight or flight response that the brain ends up triggering.

You might believe that whatever it is that your senses take in, that the stimuli is first delivered to the part of your brain that is most rational. Then, once it is there, it is logically evaluated. As a result, the brain triggers a reasonable or appropriate reaction for the situation. In other words, you might consciously choose to engage in fight or flight behavior because your safety is threatened and this type of immediate action is required. Then again, if this rational part of the brain realizes that the pattern might have spelled danger in the past, but there is no imminent danger this time around, your body won’t react with the fight or flight reaction. However, it doesn’t always work this way. Instead, that more rational part of the brain is bypassed so that the automatic fight or flight reaction is triggered. Only after this has happened will the more rational part of the brain have an opportunity to decide, through conscious choice, what is a reaction truly appropriate to the situation.

Some have referred to this type of event, where the more primitive part of the brain is initially triggered versus the more rational part of the brain instead, as a hijacking of the brain. And in truth, this hijacking of the brain is most apt to occur in people who’ve experienced traumatic events in their lives. And remember, when you are being constantly abused by a narcissist spouse, you are ensuring ongoing trauma.

The trauma of the verbal abuse and the other forms of abuse you suffer may also result in cognitive impairment or memory problems. In fact, when I was married to an abusive narcissist and suffering the onslaught of his regular verbal abuse and emotional abuse, I know I suffered a decline in my cognitive abilities. I not only had more difficulty remembering things, but I also found it challenging to talk in complete sentences. Certainly, it was the worst around him. Was that because I was fearful of stating a complete idea because I knew he’d likely attack it as soon as I’d spoken it? Perhaps that had something to do with it. Nonetheless, I came to realize that this happened more often than just when I was with him. It came to occur when I was with caring friends, too.

I didn’t realize at the time that I was living in an environment that was resulting in the death of neurons and, of course, ensuring that new ones weren’t developed through the process of neurogenesis, either. Fortunately I did maintain enough cognitive functioning to realize that this was indeed a toxic environment in which to live and furthermore, things were probably going to continue to grow worse rather than better. I felt the environment was destroying my spirit and strangling my soul. I didn’t know to be concerned about the well-being of my brain. But then, we didn’t know about all this at that time, either.

Hopefully, you will be willing to acknowledge if you are living in an environment that is likely causing harm to your brain. This might not be a pleasant reality to have to face and accept. However, since many people won’t change until they’re awakened by something rather traumatic, perhaps realizing how you’re causing your brain to deteriorate just might be the wake-up call you need, don’t you imagine?

 The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Relationship today. It has been designated one of the "Best Books of 2009" by theLibrary Journal.

THE TURNING POINT...

The verbal, psychological, and emotional abuse, control manipulation all my life, that I allowed myself to endure were bad. Really bad.

But the things I’ve allowed to change in my mind and heart because of it are horrid beyond words today...

Allowing Another Your Power

Are You Abusive to Yourself?

 

Have you ALLOWED this behavior to occur?

 

Often we allow people into our lives who treat us as we expect to be treated. If we feel contempt for ourselves or think very little of ourselves, we may pick partners or significant others who reflect this image back to us.

 

BUT I'M A VICTIM! You say. BUT ARE YOU???? THINK AGAIN.

 

Because we allow it. You are giving up your power to another.

 

If you are one who likes to barrage another,  or a recipient of constant verbal attacks, you may want to consider how you treat yourself.

 

What sorts of things do you say to yourself? Do thoughts such as “I’m stupid” or “I never do anything right” dominate your thinking? Learning to love and care for ourselves increases self-esteem and makes it more likely that we will have healthy, intimate relationships.

 

Typically self-esteem burns at both ends of this situation.

  

If you have been involved in emotionally abusive relationships, you may not have a clear idea of what a healthy relationship is like. I didn't. I devalued myself by allowing some of these things to continually repeat, even know I knew they weren't right, and hurtful.

It showed me that the lack of respect for MY needs were not taken into consideration, only the other was in an Ego state that made the inner struggles and need for me to be separate from the relationship to work on ME even more difficult.

 

What did that create? In seeking their "approval" and receiving only rebuttal as they consider only themselves and the void it will create in their life, I withdrew in a further state of confusion by staying. The tension that unfolded due to the unhappiness to do what I wanted to do, in an environment that kept me trapped that ultimately became toxic.

 

Consider these rights: (EXAMPLES TO FOLLOW)

• The right to good will from the other. SINCERE good will.  Not just words. Mean it from the heart, or do not wish it at all.
• The right to emotional support. What do they need? Asking, vs. assuming your version of emotional support is what they need is a presumption. Communication is key.
• The right to be heard by the other and to be responded to with courtesy.
• The right to distance yourself from the person to heal from issues you are still allowing into your presence. Without this support, and the guilt I allowed them to bestow upon me from them feeling rejected, not understanding that working on Self is a personal thing, can make the work on self a difficult one. An  environment that is a place that gives you a feeling of intimidation, vulnerability, guilt and unsupportive negative energy is no place to heal. 
• The right to have your own view, even if your partner has a different view. And the respect of that opinion, without making fun of, cutting down or demeaning it.
• The right to have your feelings and experience acknowledged as real. ***THIS IS IMPORTANT YOU DO NOT DEMEAN YOUR OWN VALUES AND BOUNDARIES***
• The right to receive a sincere apology for any jokes you may find offensive. What is funny to one is usually a jab disguised as a joke. It is called being respectful and taking responsibility for the truth that YOU ARE NOT JUST JOKING. 
• The right to clear and informative answers to questions that concern ONLY what is legitimately your business. That means, if it doesn't concern you, let it go. Pursuing an answer to satisfy the Egos need, is disguised as caring or concern of another. It is anything but that. The motives are usually with agenda of being nosy, jealous and insecure. They  feel they have a "right" to that respect. Just because you are in a relationship, does not automatically give you the assumption that the person is no longer an individual. Not every where they go, or what they do is REQUIRED to be communicated to you.  If you call this a request  "respect" you deserve,  what it really is instead is a self-gratifying, jealous, insecure demand that will surely push that person away.
• The right to live free from accusation and blame. Entrapment is is a way into accusing, which is deceitful. It is insecure presumptions that will cause total havock. The other person's defense is pointless - there is already judgment and assumptions there.
• The right to live free from criticism and judgment. You choose whether it is Constructive Criticism or not. If so, own it. If not, nothing needs to be said.  
• The right to have your work and your interests spoken of with respect. ALWAYS. You are in a relationship, but are an individual, too. Your opinions do not matter unless asked for.
• The right to encouragement. With sincerety, not because it will benefit you. Even if it is something that causes jealousy (which this is again an EGO state) be geniuinely HAPPY for the person - sarcasm has no place here. There's a difference...
• The right to live free from emotional and physical threat. Of your belongings, denying things that are everyday basic needs, or things they know you cannot do without. Physical attacks are another story, and just as bad. BUT, WHEN YOU ALLOW IT ONCE, YOU HAVE SET THE STAGE THAT WILL ALLOW IT TO HAPPEN AGAIN THE FUTURE.
• The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage. For voicing your stance, disagreement, opinions, you're allowed communication that is two way and agreements made together. When you have to fight to be heard, then experience rage from another, it is unhealthy.
• The right to be called by no name that devalues you.
• The right to be respectfully asked rather than ordered. It is demeaning and only devalues the person that believes threats are the way to achieve THEIR NEEDS.

If we are willing to tolerate negative treatment from others, the outcome is that we end up treating  others in negative ways as there is a constant battle to defend oneself. When it becomes too much and overwhelming, we start to believe that we are the things we are told, then end up treating ourselves similarly. Our goals, motivation to live and coping becomes unbearable. The guilt of what we allowed to happen to us is a much bigger hole to get out of  than if it had not tolerated it in the first place.

STOP ALLOWING OTHERS TO STEAL YOUR POWER. NO ONE CAN AFFECT YOU IF YOU DON'T ALLOW IT.

PEACE!

Manipulative Controlling Behavior Tactics

MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCES

I Wanted to share some very suttle tactics that eventually lead  to more evident and frequent behaviors that occurs on a daily basis.

- Controlling sleep habits (ie, deliberately interrupting sleep with loud noises, shaking one awake). wanting to have conversations at odd hours of the night

- Controlling email, social media, texts, etc. or making references  or comments about or to partner/spouse using these vehicles

These controlling behaviors, without laying a violent hand on someone, are not about "courtesy, decency, kindness or civility." They are learned behaviors by disturbed people designed to control the people in their lives. In my personal experience, these activities were far more abusive than the physical violence in either home. Watching one parent stand over the other while they cooked, ate, spoke on the phone, slept - the emotional impact is traumatic and abusive. On everyone in the home.

THE WORST KIND...

Structural, crippling emotional abuse should be a criminal offense
and thus should be punished as such. If you strip a person of their sense of worth and degrade them to the point that they unrealistically feel that they can't stand on their own, how can that NOT be abuse? It takes a toll, over years of repeating to  mentally break down a person to the point of feeling nothing at all.

These are unpleasant memories I've allowed myself to remember and be experienced again as if they just happened today.  Releasing them and letting  go of them for good is so important in the healing process...

Emotional abuse is a difficult  experience to go through, yet  rarely women  stand up to defend themselves against or go forth to pursue in court. Proving it is as hard as the attacks themselves.

A black eye is difficult to look past and a shattered sense of self by the words and acts of another...

Honor Thyself

This has probably been the toughest task to follow through on. Because I've never done it. Ever. Because I haven't been able to, it's got me where I am today. This is not where I am meant to be not will I choose to stay.

The past week I have been doing just that, a futile attempt at least.  I'm tired of staying stagnant, and must stick to being selfish, or desire the deep need to honor myself. Right now, my learned behaviors are not acceptable to me, and need to be re-written so that I do know when to honor myself at the right moments when faced in similar situations. 

OLD MEMORIES, BURIED ALIVE, NEVER DIE, THEY MERELY SHOW UP IN ANOTHER PAIR OF SHOES....

When you lie to yourself, or others about what your need, want,like or do,not like, is like having bacteria fungis.

You then become polluted by fungis.of dishonoring yourself, and difficulty to speak up FOR yourself becomes elevated, devalued, analyzed, twisted around....

SO TODAY I CHOOSE TO HONOR MYSELF ABOVE ANYTHING THAT EXISTS. BECAUSE I'M WORTH IT. AND BECAUSE THOSE WHO NEED ME I WILL NOT GIVE IN THIS STATE. NOR AM I WILLING TO ALLOW ANYTHING NEGATIVE INTO MY BEING, WHICH WILL DISTURB MY HEALING PROCESS.

Nothing else can matter.

Emotional Pain –To Heal It We Need To Acknowledge It

Acknowledging emotional pain may seem like an obvious step in the healing process that everyone is already doing. If you’re in pain, you already know it, right?Not always.

Many of us have a surprising amount of emotional trauma in our energy field that lies below our conscious awareness. In some cases we might be aware of some of the symptoms of an energetic wound within us, but we are unconscious of its deeper CAUSE – a core place of constriction where Life Force isblocked. The effects of this blockage can range from uncomfortable feelings of mild emotional pain at one end of the spectrum to severely debilitating physical and/or mental dis-ease at the more serious end of the spectrum.It is common for us to become practiced at denial of emotional pain in order to function in our lives.

Unconsciously we have learned how to keep the pain at bay so we can “do” our daily lives with some kind of balance. Often, the energetic imbalance within us actually causes us to create more imbalance as an attempt to gain equilibrium. And our only awareness of this might be a sense of feeling “off” or living our lives with limited inner resources, constantly looking for something outside ourselves to “fix” us.

In order to heal emotional pain, we need to invite it up into our conscious awareness. We need tocare enough about ourselves to spend time with ourselves, looking within and truly BEING with ourselves. Doing this we find an infinite Source of emotional support and wellbeing that is always available to us from within.

Traumatic Experiences and HEALING.

The traumatic experiences that result in the most damaged, negative belief filled programming in an individual's subconscious mind  are prolonged and repeated, sometimes extending over years of a person's life.

NATURAL VS HUMAN

Made prolonged stressors,  deliberately inflicted by people, are far harder to bear than accidents or natural disasters. Most people who seek mental health treatment for trauma have been victims of violently inflicted wounds dealt by a person.

If this was done deliberately, in the context of an ongoing relationship, the problems are increased. The worst situation is when the injury is caused deliberately in a relationship with a person on whom the victim is dependent---most specifically a  parent-child relationship or partner/spouse.

This can take anywhere from a month to years to heal at the Subconscious level, depending.on his severe and prolonged the emotional and/or verbal attacks occured.

Programmed negative beliefs must.go through several sessions of hypnosis/psycho therapy, EFT, or other methods that tap into the Subconscious to reprogram new beliefs which replace the old.

HEALING THYSELF.

What can and is being repaired...

Power of the Subconscious Mind

10 Rules Of The Subconscious Mind

Our subconscious mind exerts a powerful influence over our lives. It preserves and runs the body. It stores and organizes memories, emotions, and energy. It controls and maintains all of our perceptions.

Over 95% of what we do, think, and say comes from old programming in our subconscious mind.

Unless you make a conscious effort to direct the immense power of your subconscious, its robotic and limited programs will run your life. It will sabotage your best intentions. And yet, it's not difficult to work with the subconscious. You just have to know what you're doing.

Here are ten facts you should know about the subconscious mind:

1. Despite its power, the subconscious is a servant of the conscious mind. It follows orders by acting on whatever is fed to it. It cannot distinguish between what is real and what is imagined. It has no sense of humor and takes everything very literally. Your conscious mind is the gate-keeper. For personal power, you must be aware of what you are allowing into the subconscious. And you can intentionally program it to manifest what you want in life.

2. *****The subconscious mind responds with instinct and habit. As thinking and behavioral patterns deepen, they become habits and >>>>they become harder and harder to change.<<<<<

3. Use repetition, authority, and emotion to program the subconscious. Affirm and visualize often what you desire. Be strong, willful and in command. Draw on your passion and emotional power to affirm what you want, as emotions have a very strong impact on the subconscious mind.

4. The subconscious mind does not process negatives. For this reason, all affirmations and statements must be positive. Do not say, "I will not gain weight." The 'not' is not recorded. The subconscious mind only hears, "I will gain weight."

5. The subconscious represses memories with unresolved negative emotions. The memories will get buried, yet the beliefs and feelings associated with them will still control your reactions. This is why it is important to become aware of and resolve strong guilt, resentment, fears, anger, and depression.

6. The subconscious mind works with symbols and metaphors. Watch your dreams closely for symbols that will offer clues to underlying issues that need to be resolved.

7. It takes everything personally. It keeps a photocopy of everything. Whenever you criticize, resent, judge, and project negative thoughts and feelings onto others, you experience the negativity as your own.

8. The subconscious works on the principle of least effort. It follows the path of least resistance. Without purposeful direction from our conscious mind, it follows the easiest, usually more negative path of our engrained habits.

9. It has a need to be moral. The subconscious mind is also the source of a higher aspect of yourself. This God force, Soul energy, or whatever you want to call it supports your evolution towards love, unity, beauty and truth. Consciously working with the subconscious opens us to higher levels of wisdom and love.

10. It knows only the present time. There is no future or past in the subconscious mind. All stored experiences are processed as NOW. Know that the past affects you NOW, as the subconscious replays past programming in the present. So affirm in the now, not in the future.

------>>>>And understand that you have the power right now to re-write sabotaging programs from the past so you can claim a better future.<-------  

When you choose to understand the workings of your own mind and choose to exercise control over the functions and attributes of your own mind, you will be empowered to create your own reality, to be completely self-reliant and totally prosperous. You can have the life you really desire. #truth

So Many Messages...

I read through a free paper called aznetnews, holistic alternative medicine and healing.

There were articles that I resonated with on every page, or that I could share with people  who may benefit from it.

Just a few topics such as Heart Based living,  Belief in Self Fosters Creativity, Overcoming Health runaround...medical and natural, and more...

Some key tips on how easy it can be to stau positive in the most challenging of situations

WHAT CAN NEGATIVELY AFFECT YOU HEALTH? Negativity! If you currently are experiencing symptoms of disease, some small things that require.no meds can make you feel better...

HEART BASED LIVING...SO IMPORTANT!

Empowerment is Freedom

And these are profound statements...

My Humanitarian Gift to our Future Children of the World

Today confirms the goals amd mission to STOP THE ABUSE BEFORE IT IS PASSED ON. I commit to all future children under ten, including the unborn, to help as many as I can, keep the peace and happiness they were born with, pure beings of light and grace and power beyond their knowing.

FUTURE SPIRITUAL GUIDANCE COUNSELOR AND HEALER FOR THE CHILDREN OF THE FUTURE...

THE PROBLEM TODAY:

Verbal abuse against children comes from many directions. Children can be verbally abused by parents, teachers, other adults or other children through bullying, individually or in groups. Whoever the source, it is a misconception to assume that the child is able to ignore abuse and go about his business unaffected. The most destructive aspect of verbal abuse for children is that it can continue without being detected while the child suffers. Emotional and psychological abuse scars can

last a lifetime.....

Power Imbalance & Loss of Trust

An actual or imagined power imbalance is the most common aspect of verbal abuse. Children are dependent on most adults with whom they come into contact. They are naturally dependent on their parents, teachers and other adults to supply their needs. Children are vulnerable as the less powerful individual in relationships with adults. When a child is abused by an adult, she learns not to trust those who are supposed to provide her needs and protect her. When abuse continues,

...mistrust is generalized to others. The child may come to expect abuse and develop passive behavior patterns. 

Power Imbalance & Loss of Trust

An actual or imagined power imbalance is the most common aspect of verbal abuse. Children are dependent on most adults with whom they come into contact. They are naturally dependent on their parents, teachers and other adults to supply their needs. Children are vulnerable as the less powerful individual in relationships with adults. When a child is abused by an adult, she learns not to trust those who are supposed to provide her needs and protect her. When abuse continues,

... mistrust is generalized to others. The child may come to expect abuse and develop passive behavior patterns. 

Aggressive Tendencies

Some verbally abused children develop aggressive tendencies, emulating the behavior of their abusers and becoming bullies themselves.

Such children may engage in delinquent behavior, antisocial activities, and become perpetrators of domestic violence.

*******They may turn their anger inward, becoming self destructive.and engage in substance abuse. It is well known among substance abuse treatment professionals that most female substance abusers were verbally, sexually or otherwise abused as children; and that many male substance abusers were also verbally abused as children. It is also well observed by substance abuse treatment professionals...*************

Delayed Development

The Parents Zone, an Internet community education publication, reports delayed development as the most prominent effect of verbal abuse on children. The publication states that verbally abused children develop slowly in all areas, including physically, socially, emotionally and academically. Verbally abused children continue to experience problems in interpersonal relationships and tend to fall behind in career development as they become young adults. Many eventually develop mental disorders and become depressed or anxious.

Prevention/Solution

Verbal abuse is more difficult to detect than physical abuse, but has long-term effects that are every bit as destructive.

****Mandatory reporting laws are in affect for teachers, counselors and others who might detect problems in mistreated children, but all too often suspicion of verbal abuse is not taken seriously. ,************Teachers and other professionals should be encouraged to teach parents and children about the destructiveness of verbal abuse and encourage assertive behaviors in children that stop it from happening. Anti-bullying programs are in effect in many grade schools.

Malingnant Narcissistic Behavior-ALLOWED BUT CUT OFF!!

The pain I allowed myself to feel...horrible. But, it is important to recognize what it was so as on your path boundaries set and you can choose to block it from even entering your energy space...

More on the type of person I blamed...

To play the game, I had to believe that he was at least a bit superior to me. His ability to “control his emotions” made him feel more secure in the relationship. My demonstrations of a lack of emotional control fed his ego, drove the beast back inside of him, and ultimately kept me safer than acting like a sane person would have.

"The batterer is controlling; he insists on having the last word in arguments and decision-making,
he may control how the family's money is spent, and he may make rules for the victim about her movements and personal contacts,
such as forbidding her to use the telephone or to see certain friends. Or, make you feel guilty or pout because you dont want to be with him???

He is manipulative; he misleads people inside and outside of the family about his abusiveness, GREAT SALESMAN...

he twists arguments around to make other people feel at fault,
and he turns into a sweet, sensitive person for extended periods of time when he feels that it is in his best interest to do so.

His public image usually contrasts sharply with the private reality. He is entitled; he considers himself to have special rights and privileges not applicable to other family members.

He believes that his needs should be at the center of the family's agenda, and that everyone should focus on keeping him happy.

He usually believes that housework and childcare should be done for him, and that any contributions he makes to those efforts should earn him special appreciation and deference.

He is highly demanding.He is disrespectful; he considers his partner less competent, sensitive, and intelligent than he is, often treating her as though she were an inanimate object.

He communicates his sense of superiority around the house in various ways.

The unifying principle is his attitude of ownership. The batterer believes that once you are in a committed relationship with him, you belong to him.

This possessiveness in batterers is the reason why women are mentally broken down so much, and finally attempt to leave the relationship; a batterer does not believe that his partner has the right to end a relationship until he is ready to end it. So, he will stop at nothing to.make it EXTREMELY hard to do.

Because of the distorted perceptions that the abuser has of rights and responsibilities in relationships, he considers himself to be the victim. Acts of self-defense on the part of the battered woman or the children, or efforts they make to stand up for their rights, he defines as aggression against him.

He is often highly skilled at twisting his descriptions of events to create the convincing impression that he has been victimized.

He thus accumulates grievances over the course of the relationship to the same extent that the victim does, which can lead professionals to decide that the members of the couple "abuse each other" and that the relationship has been 'mutually hurtful."It seems that CONTROL is the goal. And so it is.

WAS... A Victim, Now... A Survivor

A victim of allowing myself zero boundaries most.of the time, which allowed it all to be "o.k."

Life's too short to carry all that anger into a beautifully present day.

Always have to remember...compassion and forgiveness needs to be something you are at peace with as soon as possible.

Healing relies highly on your ability to forgive, and dump all hurt and hate out the.door.

Everyone has their personal battles.

Using them against them to make them feel weak is not human compassion...

#loving #living with

Eyes .  Wide. Open.

Remember Compassion?? Even to Assholes???

I love Sean... IAMSpirituality.com
Find his videos on YouTube as well.

He simply Rocks!!!

Ok..as he says. In the video below..every a$$hole you meet needs your compassion. Why? We are ALL fighting a battle within.

Everyone ..different issues, and once they define what those are, they take the time, at different paces, different methods in which to heal them. The ways they know WORK FOR THEM.

SO BE KIND, try to hold off on knowing what the best ways are for them to heal. stick with your program and someday the need for sociological general healing that fits everyone in the box will pass, as we all "transform" down our own paths our own way, pace, and without judgements from others either.

Please watch this, and all of Sean's down to earth, scientific truthful podcasts exposing our mind/body/spirit connect.

Peace.

IAM SPIRITUALITY PODCAST 77
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=37lH-qfdQ_A&feature=youtube_gdata_player

Human Compassion - Can You feel it???

HOW CAN WE BLAME OURSELVES???

We have forgotten. Forgotten we are all One. We have created the delusion of separateness...

But, it is something that you feel immediately, in your heart, when you can really feel the hurt of another, their pain, cry for help without words...RIGHT???

Without having a damn selfish thought ever cross your mind simultaneously...

How can we allow others to suffer, for the sake of...what? Too hard to.reach out and open a door, offer a dollar, buy a meal, take time out of YOUR DAY to help another without expecting anything in return?

Is.it just me, but I have been hurting to the point of painful body aches and anguish, my mind cannot take anymore, I have had the worst day I thought possible... yet without even a thought, it will make my day - and possibly another, to smile and open a door for someone.

THAT WAS TODAY. Whether gratitude was shared back or not, my compassion remained...it was not expected in return!

It brings me JOY to give my last dollar, a moment of gratitude, a coupon to save someone on their food bill, run and give a stranger something they left.behind, offer my assistance when overheard that maybe I could help.
It gives me hope that it can trigger another to

RE-member ...

because I FEEL CONNECTED...do you?

RE-MEMBER....YOU HAVE THE POWER... 

WeAreOne2014

Get Your Dose of Gaslighting Here...

It is 2/11/14, and I've allowed these circumstances to rule my emotions. NO MORE...

I get sucked into it more common than I thought...

Perpetrators of emotional/psychological abuse often consciously employ a strategy called, “gaslighting”  in which they present an alternate reality to their victims, police, therapists and judges. 

Gaslighting involves denying what occurred, offering plausible but untrue accounts of what occurred, or suggesting the victim is imagining things, exaggerating or lying. 

 Gaslighting strategies leave victims doubting their own perceptions, memory or sanity and serve to confuse police, judges and therapists into inaction or worse, supporting the abuser, while leaving the victims feeling helpless and alone against the abuse.

      ...I recognize it now and know it is definitely not me!!

 Monopolization of perceptions is often part of the abuser’s brainwashing-like tactics whereas the victim believes what he/she says is true and that they’re perceptions, opinions or ideas are mistaken or unworthy. 

Constant criticism, demeaning behaviors, threats, withholding affection or threatening abandonment for non-compliance with abuser’s demands and personal humiliation are further consistent, on-going tactics of the emotional/psychological abuser....

The continuous and unrelenting pattern of emotional abuse is often interspersed with warmth and kindness to create an “in and out” of bonding , “crazy making” experience.
 
Do they think this is LOVE????

 Fear, isolation, withdrawal, feelings of abandonment and helplessness, overly compliant/submissive behavior, self-blaming, and humiliation are common responses. T?

NOT ANYMORE...

What I thought to be LOVE?

Abusers use a variety of tactics to manipulate you and exert their power:

Dominance – Abusive individuals need to feel in charge of the relationship. They will make decisions for you and the family, tell you what to do, and expect you to obey without question. Your abuser may treat you like a servant, child, or even as his or her possession.

Humiliation – An abuser will do everything he or she can to make you feel bad about yourself or defective in some way. After all, if you believe you're worthless and that no one else will want you, you're less likely to leave. Insults, name-calling, shaming, and public put-downs are all weapons of abuse designed to erode your self-esteem and make you feel powerless.

Isolation – In order to increase your dependence on him or her, an abusive partner will cut you off from the outside world. He or she may keep you from seeing family or friends, or even prevent you from going to work or school. You may have to ask permission to do anything, go anywhere, or see anyone.

Threats – Abusers commonly use threats to keep their partners from leaving or to scare them into dropping charges. Your abuser may threaten to hurt or kill you, your children, other family members, or even pets. He or she may also threaten to commit suicide, file false charges against you, or report you to child services.

Intimidation – Your abuser may use a variety of intimidation tactics designed to scare you into submission. Such tactics include making threatening looks or gestures, smashing things in front of you, destroying property, hurting your pets, or putting weapons on display. The clear message is that if you don't obey, there will be violent consequences.

Denial and blame – Abusers are very good at making excuses for the inexcusable. They will blame their abusive and violent behavior on a bad childhood, a bad day, and even on the victims of their abuse. Your abusive partner may minimize the abuse or deny that it occurred. He or she will commonly shift the responsibility on to you: Somehow, his or her violent and abusive behavior is your fault.

Abusers are able to control their behavior—they do it all the time

Abusers pick and choose whom to abuse. They don’t insult, threaten, or assault everyone in their life who gives them grief. Usually, they save their abuse for the people closest to them, the ones they claim to love.

Abusers carefully choose when and where to abuse. They control themselves until no one else is around to see their abusive behavior. They may act like everything is fine in public, but lash out instantly as soon as you’re alone.Abusers are able to stop their abusive behavior when it benefits them.

Most abusers are not out of control. In fact, they’re able to immediately stop their abusive behavior when it’s to their advantage to do so (for example, when the police show up or their boss calls).

Violent abusers usually direct their blows where they won’t show. Rather than acting out in a mindless rage, many physically violent abusers carefully aim their kicks and punches where the bruises and marks won’t show. (In your mind!!!!)

Are You Abusive to Yourself?

Often we allow people into our lives who treat us as we expect to be treated. If we feel contempt for ourselves or think very little of ourselves, we may pick partners or significant others who reflect this image back to us.

If we are willing to tolerate negative treatment from others, or treat others in negative ways, it is possible that we also treat ourselves similarly.

If you are an abuser or a recipient, you may want to consider how you treat yourself. What sorts of things do you say to yourself? Do thoughts such as “I’m stupid” or “I never do anything right” dominate your thinking? Learning to love and care for ourselves increases self-esteem and makes it more likely that we will have healthy, intimate relationships.

      Basic Rights in a Relationship

If you have been involved in emotionally abusive relationships, you may not have a clear idea of what a healthy relationship is like.

The right to good will from the other.

The right to emotional support.

The right to be heard by the other and to be responded to with courtesy.

The right to have your own view, even if your partner has a different view.

.The right to have your feelings and experience acknowledged as real.

The right to receive a sincere apology for any jokes you may find offensive.

The right to clear and informative answers to questions that concern what is legitimately your business.

The right to live free from accusation and blame.

The right to live free from criticism and judgment.

The right to have your work and your interests spoken of with respect.

The right to encouragement.

The right to live free from emotional and physical threat.

The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage.

The right to be called by no name that devalues you.

The right to be respectfully asked rather than ordered.

Understanding Values and Belief Systems

If anything, I've attempted, in many ways, to explain this to people in understanding why hypnotherapy IS THE ONLY THING that can change beliefs that no longer serve us.

This article explains it best...may we all rid ourselves from the "hurt people HURT people" syndrome....
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What are core values and belief systems and how are they created???

 You might respond with something like my job, my husband/wife/mate, my car and so on. Let’s for a moment think of values as something that is not a material thing but more so an intrinsic thing. An intrinsic vale is something that has worth to us, but we can’t necessarily quantify that in terms of material items or even numbers.

Now when we talk about values, words might come to mind like freedom, trust, respect, love, compassion and so on. You can easily see the difference, but noting that these things do really mean something to us. As all things go, each person will not only have different values, they will have a different ordering or priority of what’s important. Taking one more step beyond that and probably the most important difference - is what that value actually means or translates to in real life.

For instance one woman’s version of love might include getting flowers on a regular basis, while another doesn’t like flowers receiving flowers and things it’s a bribe or sorts. For the first woman getting flowers from her husband shows to her, in her value system, that he loves her. If the second woman was to receive flowers, it could be suspect or even painful.

This is a simple example, but I think you get the picture. In any given value, for any given person there will be different reason on how that values translates to their real world situation. These reasons or guidelines for a given value are often referred to as “the rules” behind the value. The rules for the first woman may have developed when she was young as she witness her father bring flowers home to her mother and noticing further how happy that made her mother. She then adopted that rule as her own.

The second woman may have witnessed her father bring home flowers to her mother after he did something not in her mother’s best interest and was his attempt to sooth ruffled feathers. The second woman’s rule might say to her, that getting flowers means that the giver was hiding something or did something she wouldn’t like.

Again simple examples, but you can see how they differ. Magnify that by all the possibilities, situations and people, you can begin to see that there are many different meanings around a given value. You can also begin to see, why people are so different. People also tend to find other people with similar or complimentary values and you can easily see how that would work as well.

Now for the interesting part. The flowers in the above example are events or reference that these two woman remember. We can say that these events the shaped the rules that further created and shaped the value(s). In this case the flower events were something they remembered but in many cases these events become something that is not actually remembered. It can often be a simple thing like a statement a child makes when angry about something. For instance a child may say I never going to talk to you again. This event begins shaping how that child turned adolescent turned adult deals with things. Repeated iterations of said pattern re-enforces it as a child and this child turned woman becomes someone who often doesn’t communicate when something doesn’t go her way. She has built a pattern into herself that at some points she doesn’t remember and has to go to counseling to ;learn how to communicate when things don’t go her way.

Again a simple example, but you begin to see how behaviors and more so forgotton behaviors shape the way we think as we get older. I will also clarify that some of those behaviors adopted as a child were necessary as a defense mechanism against something that might be more painful. The problem however shows up when we continue to use those long after that behavior pattern stopped working for us.

How do you go about identifying and changing these unwanted patterns that no longer serve you? …more (coming soon)