Things Verbal Abusers Do:
What does verbal abuse sound like? The tone and content varies from abuser to abuser, but the words effect the victim in similar ways. Victims hear horrible things from their abuser and they feel small, withdrawn, angry, helpless, sad, shame, and a hundred other horrible emotions – sometimes all at once.
Defend what they’ve said.
Analyze what they’ve said out loud, explaining that the words they used do not have the definitions you seem to think they do.
Block you in a room so you can’t leave and thereby avoid what they’re saying.
Talk horribly to the television but are really speaking to you.
Flip open their knife to open a piece of gum while looking at you under knitted brows.
Leave to do something else at the last minute when you had plans together, or better yet, had plans with friends and he never comes home to watch the kids.
Take you out for your best birthday ever and then wind up berating you on the way home for not appreciating their efforts enough.
Tell your children you need more happy pills to be a good mom.
Change the topic of the conversation so you bounce from one place to another, never getting to the core of the issue.
Accuse you of being a whore or a dummy or a _B*/C* so often that they no longer need to say the words but can offer up a “look” and you know what they’re saying (then they may deny it).
Okay. I have to stop. My stomach is literally upset right now after digesting the utter contempt and hatred some people spew on a daily basis.
What does verbal abuse sound like? The tone and content varies from abuser to abuser, but the words effect the victim in similar ways. Victims hear horrible things from their abuser and they feel small, withdrawn, angry, helpless, sad, shame, and a hundred other horrible emotions – sometimes all at once.
Defend what they’ve said.
Analyze what they’ve said out loud, explaining that the words they used do not have the definitions you seem to think they do.
Block you in a room so you can’t leave and thereby avoid what they’re saying.
Talk horribly to the television but are really speaking to you.
Flip open their knife to open a piece of gum while looking at you under knitted brows.
Leave to do something else at the last minute when you had plans together, or better yet, had plans with friends and he never comes home to watch the kids.
Take you out for your best birthday ever and then wind up berating you on the way home for not appreciating their efforts enough.
Tell your children you need more happy pills to be a good mom.
Change the topic of the conversation so you bounce from one place to another, never getting to the core of the issue.
Accuse you of being a whore or a dummy or a _B*/C* so often that they no longer need to say the words but can offer up a “look” and you know what they’re saying (then they may deny it).
Okay. I have to stop. My stomach is literally upset right now after digesting the utter contempt and hatred some people spew on a daily basis.
Who did this to you Gia?
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