Happiness Rules

Why yes, it does!!!!!!

Content. Single. Being.

I Wish That I Could Say

That these are the things I thought love was. 

 

Wish I could say that none of these things were part of my experience in my past relationship. But I compromised, I overcame. Forgetting the retaliation that occurred last week, and drug into this week. And not comprehending what even sparked it.  Still no apology for the feeble drama created. 

 

So it must make everything o.k.., and easy to forgive and forget,  right? Yes. Always. I can easily be at peace. It's a choice. 

 

I also choose to step away from friendship. I respect myself to know that not a hint of remorse or apology was given for the immature shenanigans on Facebook.

If you think that was all sarcasm, fun, not to be taken personally, WHO ARE YOU? Who repeatedly throws tantrums like a child and thinks it is o.k? Well, if we still have friends from Jr. High who also participate with you in bullying people, then you've found the group that is at the same vibration as you. I have nothing in common with that environment or you anymore.

 

How many times does the power of control have to be denied before it can be admitted to??? I don't need to have that answer. 

The day I walk away is the day i make a point. Today. 

 

Yes, I am have morals and a higher standards, and will be the only person whom I seek for that guidance going forward. 

 

You stated you can be my friend. I would want  to be my friend, too!  All of the un-mindful things you've created to damage who I am, only to subject myself to those experiences over and over, I just am saying NO THANK YOU to your version of friendship. 

#truth

HEALING YOURSELF OF THE TRAUMA WITHIN

The Mirror of Perception

Every person and situation in our lives is a mirror. They reflect to us our perception of Reality, and the bigger picture of what we are trying to Learn about Self.  This means what we love or hate or fear “out there”, or in another, is what we really love or hate or fear withIN. We wouldn’t know hate and/or fear  if we didn’t have it in our possession, withIN.

 

The Only Way Out is Through

We learn, for the most part, that “God” resides somewhere outside of ourselves, dictating our Lives in some way, shape or form. But as we evolve, our preconceived ideas of what that means are  literally being turned upside-down.  We are seeing  that we are the “God” of our own individual Universe, the Divine creators of our own Reality, shaped by our physical, psychological, emotional, and spiritual bodies. We are realizing that “God” is  our Higher Self  – our connectedness –  and  putting our Trust and Faith into this realization. From here, we can see that the drama of our trauma doesn’t have to be so dramatic after all, as it’s leading us to the ultimate prize of release, letting go  –  Acceptance.

 

The most important thing to remember about dealing with trauma is that, at a fundamental level, we are searching for a way to have our Emotional needs met, in order to move on. We are ultimately trying to find a Safe emotional space where we can be  comfortable with our experience and  our  emotions, and feel comfortable expressing them.

 

THIS POINT IS DEAD ON......

 

While we are in this process we must  keep in mind that our emotional needs aren’t “unhealthy”  – they are a Truth of this Reality –  but  we may be avoiding them, or trying to meet them in an “unhealthy” (and unsatisfying) way by doing harm to Self or others. This is a very common theme;  we  project these emotional needs onto others and expect them to fulfil us…  which is, of course, quite impossible. It just  sets us (and them) up for “failure”,  which causes us (and them) to be traumatized all over again.  The people in our lives  can only provide  a Loving support system while  we work through our emotions.

 

Ultimately, Self is the only one who is experiencing Self’s emotions, so  in order to Heal we must meet our OWN emotional needs. As we put our Trust and Faith in our Higher Self,  we can begin to work with the damage and confusion on a more Spiritual level, which brings significantly more accessible results. When we begin to look withIN, we  can begin to be Honest with ourselves about our emotional needs  and how these needs effect our Lives in the bigger picture.

 

In order to transcend the negativity we perceive “out there” we have to Love it into submission, right “in here”. Our  seemingly negative emotions reflect  an absence of  the energy of Love, so  in order to rid ourselves of them, we must LOVE them,  shining a light on the Shadows within.  From there, we begin to forget the negativity surrounding our trauma and can approach it from either a Loving standpoint or, even better, we can get to a place where we no longer put energy into it at ALL, as we (finally) move forward.

 

It takes great commitment and courage to face what one truly hates and/or fears  withIN. These feelings are extremely uncomfortable.  The illusion tells us that we are incomplete, fragmented, or broken but the Truth is that we can never be these things in Spirit. It’s only our judgment that tells us our emotions are “wrong”.

 

But it’s from this place of great vulnerability that we find our greatest Strength.  Heaven is a mindset and a way of BEing, rather than  a place or an emotion that can be met by another. When we stop  repeating our cycles of emotional trauma and  projecting  our emotions outwardly, we stop  doing harm to ourselves and others, and create  peace and safety withIN ourselves.

 

When we fill our Shadows with light, they  all but disappear.  

 

Embracing a  process of Healing  opens up an  emotional vastness that covers all ends of the spiritual and emotional spectrum. This is where we really begin to heal from the pain and trauma caused by this Reality. By understanding and  Loving  our entire spiritual and emotional body, we are able to Connect with Self and others in a most profound and expansive way. The Gift, and what makes it worth the process, is our own personal brand of Heaven that comes from withIN and then transforms our reality (without).

 

 

 

 

 

"CRAZY MAKING" Tactic - DEAD.

Crazy makers point to an event in your personal history and tell you, repeatedly, that it has something to do with your current relationship problems with them. Crazy makers blame you for every bad thing in your relationship or their life. They rarely if ever take responsibility for their hurtful actions and words, and if they do take responsibility for something it’s because they’re trying to convince you that they love you. Stop believing they can love you if they cannot love themselves. For someone who can treat you as they have does not have the ability to commit to love another in partnership. Crazy makers use your intimate confessions against you, personally and publically...and in social media posts. Thus an attempt in turning you inward on yourself and making you your own worst enemy.  Allowing this for too long, crafts self - doubt. Self-doubt robs you of confidence. ISN'T THAT WHAT THEY WANT?? Sure. But that power is no longer available for anyone to relinquish and control. I HAVE CHANGED. That is all that matters.

Different Shoes, Same Lesson - MASTERED CHANGE.

" Before the beginning of great brilliance, there must be chaos. Before a brilliant person begins something great, they must look foolish in the crowd."

"We are once fools, gaining wisdom by experience".

 

I can only thank you both for those experiences. From this day on, I have found the strength to live the life I have been waiting for. It's been with me all along. Everything I need I already have. Everything I need to know, I already know. I trust the one life, one mind, one power, one one presence to manifest at its fullest potential and fulfill every desired good in my heart.

 

It is already happening, and me, myself and I got me there. NO ONE ELSE. I Am grateful for the knowledge of this truth as it unfolds. Be well. Both of you. I say nothing but offer positive energy your way to guide you to your own true happiness. You have given me tough lessons that I am grateful for today, for I know that if not for those lessons, the things I allowed and accepted no longer drag me down.

 

I changed the things I cannot ALLOW, and that change was enough to make the difference in finding my True Self. The strong, beautiful, creative, smart person that has a future ahead of me waiting to do good things for my daughters, myself, and others.

 

Be well.

In Love Always -

G

Soulmate or Partnership???

There is a catch to encountering these deep connections. Before you can go to this depth and even be brave enough to notice it,

YOU MUST FIRST 💜LOVE YOURSELF💜

Because when you have love times a million for yourself, it comes naturally and effortlessly, transforming through you and transfixing to another who too loves themselves and are ready and open for depth. Intimacy requires an open-heart.

Looking, searching, praying, visualizing and meditating does not bring a soul mate. I do not believe they can be summoned. No one can be your other half or fill your cup but you. Sure, a soul mate can remind, inspire and certainly enhance your life but no one can be your happiness — but YOU!!!!

Although, one can be prepared. Do your work. Love and nourish yourself. Fill your own soul and fuel your own fire. And then when, and if, they do come along, you are ready to sizzle.

“Don’t worry about finding your soul mate. Find yourself.” ~ Jason Evert

Read on and without over-analyzing, ask yourself — soul mate or life partner?

The 10 Elements of a Soul Mate (According to Dr. Carmen Harra)

1. It’s something inside. Describing how a soul mate makes you feel is difficult. It’s a tenacious, profound and lingering emotion which no words can encompass.

2. Flashbacks. If your partner is your soul mate, chances are he or she has been present in your past lives. You might even feel an odd sense of déjà vu, as if the moment in time has already taken place, perhaps a long time ago, perhaps in a different setting.

3. You just get each other. Ever met two people who finish each others sentences? Some people call that spending too much time together, but I call it a soul mate connection. You might experience this with your best friend or your mother, but it is the telltale sign of a soul mate when you experience it with your partner.

4. ****You fall in love with his (or her) flaws. ****No relationship is perfect, and even soul mate relationships will experience ups and downs. Still, that bond will be much harder to break. Soul mates have an easier time of accepting, even learning to love, each others imperfections.

5. It’s intense. A soul mate relationship may be more intense than normal relationships, in both good and sometimes bad ways. The most important thing is that, even during negative episodes, you’re focused on resolving the problem and can see beyond the bad moment.

6. You two against the world. Soul mates often see their relationship as “us against the world.” They feel so linked together that they’re ready and willing to take on any feat of life, so long as they have their soul mate by their side.

7. You’re mentally inseparable. Soul mates often have a mental connection similar to twins. They might pick up the phone to call each other at the exact same time. Though life may keep you apart at times, your minds will always be in tune if you are soul mates.

8. You feel secure and protected. Regardless of the gender of your partner, he or she should always make you feel secure and protected. Your soul mate will make you feel like you have a guardian angel by your side. A person who plays on your insecurities, whether consciously or subconsciously, is not your soul mate.

9. You can’t imagine your life without him (or her). A soul mate is not someone you can walk away from that easily. It is someone you can’t imagine being without, a person you believe is worth sticking with and fighting for.

10. You look each other in the eye. Soul mates have a tendency to look into each others eyes when speaking more often than ordinary couples. It comes naturally from the deep-seated connection between them. Looking a person in the eye when speaking denotes a high level of comfort and confidence.

PARTNERSHIPS.