TRUST - A new way to see it

If we are wanting to change the world, we must UNLEARN what we have been taught, told and believe to be truth.

Trust is one thing that has been misconstrued in definition for so many reasons. It is a demand upon another to meet an expectation. In setting expectations from a person up front, you are in turn placing a need for yourself upon another.

Consider a new way to remove judgment, expectation and personal needs from relationships - whether it be friends, family, significant others or spouses with this quote from Neal Donald Walsch:

...that trust is not necessary when you don't want or
need anything.

If you are wondering whether you can "trust" someone,
look closely at what it is you think you need or want
from them. When you need or want nothing, trust is
not an issue.

And, of course, there is nothing that you do need,
from anybody, given Who and What You Are. You
are an expression of Divinity Itself, and Divinity is
your Source.

Thinking that you "need" anything, given that this is so,
would be nothing more than a misunderstanding.

There is too much "poor me" "what about me" "what can you do for me" expectations from others close to you, that are constantly on demand to be fulfilled. And because it becomes a defined NEED and expectation from someone else, when another person "fails" to meet this obligation requirement, it can cause negative emotions as a projection onto the other person, even end a relationship, due to a need not met. Seems very limited and restricting, right?

Trust that failed when defined can consist of many scenarios. Then we begin to judge by comparing it to other things that cause mistrust and how BADLY it rates as a projection of wrongdoing based on our societal perceptions. The thing that caused the perceived lack of trust then becomes judged. This is how we determine how we will treat the other person;  based on the severity of this perception.

Failed trust is also handled differently for every person in their life as well. Trust defined as one thing for a spouse can mean another version and expectation they need from their child.

If their child continually lies when confronted, and repeats the pattern over and over, with consequences, but the child continues to lie about stealing, things they did or did not do, etc...does the parent to end the relationship with the child?

They are a child, they say. They are learning. Are we still not learning even as adults? Everyday? We are still growing and becoming as individuals SEPARATE from our relationships.

YES WE ARE.

To end a relationship solely based on a lack of trust from another is giving up because  someone "failed" to meet your expectations. This in turn limits you to TRUST again. Limits you to receiving the compassion and gifts from the whole person you let go who did not meet this one expectation. How limiting is this reasoning? Remember, YOU (or societies perception) of the mis-trust has now defined and ruled the outcome.

The illusions we create only in our mind can leave us in the illusion, or allow us the freedom of compassion and love again. It is a choice. But only for those willing to give up their old beliefs and standards, which no longer serve if we are to evolve to a higher place of self.